We form relationships with many people throughout our lives. Sometimes, however, these relationships can become problematic. This is particularly true when we meet people who are overly dependent on others or use others for their own benefit. Such relationships can negatively impact our mental and emotional health. In this article, we will explore what a true friend is and how to avoid dependency on others.
What is a True Friend?
A true friend is someone you can rely on, but this reliance should not be one-sided. It stems from a mutual relationship. A friend is someone who respects you, helps you when needed, and can honestly tell you when they cannot help.
Filtering Out Bad Takers
Throughout life, we encounter people who take others’ kindness for granted. These individuals behave as if they have some claim over others. For example, they may act as though they are entitled to certain privileges because their friend drives a luxury car. These people are looking to exploit others for their own gain. We call them TAKERS.
- Always asking for favors without even a thank you
- Cutting off contact once their need is fulfilled
- Only contacting you when they need something
Such relationships inevitably cause problems. We should distance ourselves from these individuals and surround ourselves with those who genuinely care for and respect us.
How to Avoid Dependency on Others
Being overly dependent on others ultimately makes us unhappier. So, how can we become more independent and avoid relying on others?
1. Take Responsibility for Your Emotions
We often depend on others to manage our emotions. For instance, we might expect friends to make us feel better or solve our problems. However, we must take responsibility for our own emotions. We need to manage our emotions independently.
2. Develop Independent Habits
Living independently boosts our self-esteem. It is important to develop the ability to solve problems on your own. Starting a new hobby or traveling alone can be great ways to foster independence.
3. Build Healthy Relationships
Healthy relationships are reciprocal. You can rely on each other, but the relationship should not be one-sided. We should respect each other’s emotions and needs while also ensuring our own are respected.
Conclusion
We are beings that live in relationships. However, we must be cautious not to let those relationships harm us. By learning to live independently, we can lead healthier and happier lives. Understanding what makes a true friend and building healthy relationships is crucial. Tell yourself this:
“I am the main character of my life.”