Anyone who has ever spoken out in public knows the feeling of saying too much—TMI (Too Much Information). Understanding why it’s important to avoid oversharing can prevent awkwardness and discomfort in social settings. Looking back, you may have regretted mentioning certain things in public. Today, we introduce 7 conversation topics to avoid in public, based on psychological insights from the Australian interpersonal relations media, Hack Spirit.
1. Dramatic Personal Stories
Everyone has dramatic personal stories they’d like to share. However, sharing such stories in public can cause discomfort. Especially when talking to people who can’t help or to those who aren’t close to you, negative stories can make interactions awkward. For example, discussions about marital disputes or family conflicts are better left for trusted friends or family. Not everyone is going to worry about or help you.
2. Personal Achievements
It’s great to share good news, but constantly talking about your achievements can come across as bragging or seeking validation. Feel free to discuss your promotion if asked, but be careful not to make it the focal point of the conversation. Constantly talking about your achievements can even become a burden for yourself.
3. Controversial Topics
Topics like politics or religion often trigger strong emotions and can easily lead to arguments. Bringing up such subjects in a diverse group can increase tension and make a pleasant gathering uncomfortable. Our brains tend to go into defense mode when our beliefs are challenged. It’s best to avoid controversial topics in group settings.
4. Criticism of Others
Even if you’re disappointed or angry with someone, it’s best to avoid publicly speaking about them, especially in a negative or derogatory manner. Criticizing others can actually reflect poorly on yourself. It’s important to consider the other person’s perspective and whether there might be a valid reason for their actions.
5. Money Issues
Discussions about money should also be avoided in public settings. Talking about salaries or the price of a new car can lead to envy or discomfort among others. Personal financial matters are inappropriate for large group discussions.
6. Gossip
It can be tempting to share juicy gossip, but spreading rumors or personal stories about others can damage their reputation and harm relationships. It can also leave a bad impression of you.
7. Self-Deprecation
Avoid self-deprecating comments in group settings. Speaking negatively about yourself or doubting your abilities can make others uncomfortable and negatively impact your own self-esteem. Beware of the trap of self-deprecation disguised as humility.
Conclusion
By avoiding these topics, you’ll find your conversations with others to be much more enjoyable and meaningful. Remember the importance of maintaining harmonious and positive dialogue in group settings.
Reference: Hack Spirit, “7 Things You Should Never Talk About in Public”